For starters, I just opened Firefox and my blog was on the default theme. Huh? When I looked at it last night it was on my pink heart balloons one. Oh well, crazy updating side effects.
Amongst the conversations I had at the party on Saturday night I had a really bizarre one with my friend Sam. We used to think in similar ways but over the years our opinions on life topics have really diverged. Someone said something that reminded me of the movie Closer so I asked if they’d seen it. They hadn’t but Sam had and she loves it. I didn’t hate the movie itself I think it was well done but I hated everything it stood for and I don’t think life should be like that at all, nor do I think life is like that most of the time.
My description of the movie to the person that hadn’t seen it was that it was these two couples mixing and matching. Sam said that it wasn’t about that, it was about finding one’s self. I suppose you could look at it that way but the way they tried to find themselves was through sex and infidelity. In the end none of them were any closer to knowing themselves. It seemed the two that knew something about themselves in the end already knew that much about themselves at the start and the other two were probably more messed up in the end.
I also hated they way they day they love each other all the time and then act in a completely contradictory way. Sam said it was about “living in the moment”. From what she was saying, it seemed to me that it would be okay for me to sleep with someone else if even for a day I thought I wasn’t going to keep being in love with my husband. Maybe I was hearing her wrong but I don’t want to live in a world where fleeting feelings have more weight than promises and commitments. Of course someone shouldn’t spend their life depressed or angry because they are tied to someone, but surely there needs to be a line, or a hazy crossing at some point.
That was one thing I learnt at that party while speaking to my old friends, our thoughts and feelings have changed a lot. I wonder if one day the only thing that will tie us together is high school.
I can tell you right now, that in a few year’s time, high school will probably be the only thing that ties you together. That’s my experience anyway. It’s kinda sad and encouraging at the same time. Sad – because the similarities which created those high school bonds are withering away, and therefore the bonds are withering too. However, I suppose its encouraging in the sense that it shows you that you are being transformed by a renewing of your mind, and that you have an attitude that reduces your propensity to conform to the pattern of this world. (Romans 12:2)
Agreed – “living for the moment” is a load of nonsense. Self control is totally underrated. Anyone who advocates living for the moment too seriously should be trusted with the following:
a) heavy objects
b) sharp objects
c) explosive objects or objects containing compressed gases
d) motor vehicles
e) machinery
f) peace treaty or hostage negotiations
g) firearms
h) movie reviews
i) your passwords to anything, including this blog.
By the way, I haven’t seen Closer yet. And I probably won’t – thanks for the heads up. As an aside, I just saw Miami Vice tonight – Good Movie.
ERRATA:
(a) The word “not” should be inserted into the 3rd sentence of the second paragraph abd should read thus:
“Anyone who advocates living for the moment should NOT be trusted with the following:”
(b) The following should be inserted after point (i):
“(j) housekeys
(k) credit cards”
ERRATA (2):
Ah crap, there’s the typo in my original errata.
AND – I meant AND not “abd”.